Online Men’s Group for Compulsive Sexual Behavior

Most men dealing with compulsive sexual behavior have never once talked about it with another person who has the same problem. That isolation is not a side effect — it is part of it. Shame keeps the behavior secret, secrecy keeps the shame intact, and the cycle runs undisturbed for years.

Group therapy breaks that cycle in a way individual work alone often cannot. Intrapsychic runs confidential groups for men working on compulsive pornography use, hypersexuality, and other compulsive but consensual sexual behavior — led personally by Dr. James Reavis, who has specialized in this work for more than 25 years and currently treats approximately 300 men weekly. Call (619) 234-7970 or use our confidential contact form to ask about joining; Dr. Reavis responds personally within 24 hours.

Who the Group Is For

Men whose sexual behavior is legal and consensual but has become compulsive — pornography use that consumes hours daily, hypersexuality straining or ending relationships, patterns of hookups, apps, or paid encounters that persist despite every private resolution to stop. Members are professionals, fathers, husbands, single men — ordinary men carrying a private struggle. This group is specifically for the compulsive-but-consensual population; it is not a court-ordered or forensic group.

Why Group Works for This Problem

• It ends the isolation. Hearing another man describe your exact experience, in his own words, does something no book or webpage can.
• Accountability that survives the week. A private promise is easy to break. A commitment made to seven men who will ask about it next session is different.
• Shame cannot survive the room. Shame is the fuel of compulsive behavior, and it depends on secrecy. Speaking the truth in a room that receives it without judgment drains the fuel.
• You learn from men further along. Every group contains men at different stages; the man two years ahead of you is proof the work pays off, and the man behind you shows you how far you have come.

How the Group Runs

Groups meet weekly by secure, HIPAA-compliant video — you attend from wherever in California you are, with no waiting room and no commute. Sessions follow a structured curriculum Dr. Reavis has developed over 25 years of running these groups, covering the mechanics of the compulsive cycle, the attachment and emotional-regulation roots underneath it, relapse patterns and how to interrupt them, and the rebuilding of real intimacy. Group size is kept small enough that every member works every week.

Current schedule: Fridays at 11:30 AM. New members join after a brief individual intake with Dr. Reavis, which ensures the group is the right fit and gives him your history before you walk in; session length and fee are discussed at that intake.

Confidentiality in a Group Setting

The obvious question: how private can a group be? Every member agrees to strict confidentiality as a condition of joining — what is said in group stays in group. Members are screened for fit before joining, video sessions are conducted on a HIPAA-compliant platform, and many members choose first names only. In 25 years of running these groups, this structure has held.

Group, Individual, or Both?

Many men do both — individual sessions for the deeper personal work, group for accountability and the end of isolation. Others start with group alone. The intake conversation settles what fits your situation; there is no pressure toward more than you need. See also our pages on hypersexuality treatment and pornography addiction, or take the anonymous three-minute self-assessment if you are still deciding whether this is your problem.

Common Questions

Will I have to talk right away? You will be welcomed, not spotlighted. Most new members listen more than they speak for the first few sessions; participation grows as trust does.

What if I know someone in the group? Screening addresses this before you join; conflicts of acquaintance are grounds for placing you in a different group.

Is a virtual group really as effective? For this population the format is often better than in-person: the privacy of attending from home removes the biggest barrier to showing up at all.

How long do men stay? Long enough to do the work — typically months rather than weeks. This is treatment, not a webinar.

Take the Next Step

If you have read this far, some part of you already knows the isolation is the problem. Call (619) 234-7970 or use our confidential contact form and ask about the men’s group. Dr. Reavis will respond personally within 24 hours, and the conversation is confidential from the first word.